Everyone Person Has Flaws, You’re NOT the Only One!Dec 05, 2023
One of the biggest misconceptions about having flaws is that it means you are flawed. It’s as if we believe that flaws are a permanent part of who we are and there is nothing we can do about them. But nothing could be further from the truth!
What is flaw?
A flaw is simply a temporary setback, problem or weakness. It doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you permanently. Flaws are common among everyone, and in many cases, they can even be an advantage when properly managed.
Everyone has flaws. They’re an inevitable part of life. Whether they are personality flaws, situational to your lifestyle, or perhaps something physical, there’s likely flaws you are trying to live with and some you may want to change. You may be completely aware of your flaws or have yet to connect the dots between your flaws and the experiences you are having in the world.
Some People are Well Aware of Their Own Flaws
There are some people are well aware of their flaws and they openly discuss them without shame or embarrassment. They know how their flaws affect their lives and they try to work around them in healthy ways.
For others, their flaws weigh heavy on them and cause them to feel overwhelmed by life in general. Their self-esteem is negatively impacted by these flaws, which can lead to poor decisions and unhealthy behavior patterns.
However, there are also those who are so self-absorbed that they don’t see their own shortcomings nor care about the impact it has on other people around them. These individuals are usually only concerned about themselves and what benefits them personally regardless of the consequences for others involved in their lives as well as those who may be affected by their actions over time!
Some People are Unaware of Their Flaws
There are many people who don’t realize that they have flaws until someone else points it out to them. It is not uncommon for people to ignore or deny their flaws until they become overwhelming or until someone else points them out.
They lack self-awareness of their flaws, and perhaps no one else has addressed them either. The lack of awareness can create problems socially and emotionally too.
Some people don’t realize how much they talk about themselves or how much they seek approval from others. They may believe that other people are jealous of them or trying to sabotage them (even when there is no evidence).
The problem with flaws is they feel very personal and sometimes it’s difficult to imagine anyone else living with the same issues. Having flaws can feel isolating and affect self-esteem, but everyone lives with flaws, both real and imaginary, and though the flaws may be different, the feelings about them tend to be universal.
Some flaws trigger feelings of:
Shame: Feeling unworthy or not good enough. When this happens, we tend to hide our flaws from others out of fear that they may judge us negatively.
Guilt: Feeling bad about ourselves because of something we did or didn’t do in the past. This can lead us to blame ourselves for things that are not our fault (i.e., “I should have helped my brother more when he was younger; therefore, I am responsible for him being homeless now”).
Disconnect: Feeling disconnected from others because of your flaw(s). This can happen when you have a flaw and then become ashamed or embarrassed by it or when someone else points out that your flaw is flawed (i.e., “You’re too fat! You need to lose weight!”).
Unworthiness: Maybe it feels like everyone else is doing better than you at everything. You feel like a failure compared to others' accomplishments—and maybe even their intentions! You might find yourself saying things like "I'm not good enough for him/her" or "They're not going to want me."
Your Situation May be Flawed but You are Not
No one is perfect.
Every single person on the planet has flaws. We all have issues and problems, we all make mistakes, we all have things about ourselves that we wish were different.
But even if you do have flaws, that’s not who you are. You are a whole person living with flaws, just like everyone else!
You might be struggling with an addiction or mental illness, but that doesn’t mean that you are flawed as a person. Your situation may be flawed but you are not.
The truth is, no matter what type of flaws you’re trying to manage, it’s important to remember that you are a whole person living with flaws. You may have flaws but you are not flawed. You are valuable, unique, worthy and precious!
You can control on what you want to do about your flaws
We all have flaws, but some people are better at hiding them than others.
Flaws can be physical, mental, or emotional. They can be insignificant or significant. And they can be perceived as negative by the observer or even by ourselves.
The key is to understand that everyone has flaws and that you are not alone in having them. This is true for even the most confident and beautiful people—they still have flaws! It helps to know everyone has flaws whether we recognize them or not. Knowing you aren’t the only one can ease the tension and allow for compassion as you learn new ways to embrace, manage, or perhaps change the flaws that don’t suit you. Ultimately, it’s up to you to choose how you want to handle your flaws.
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